Self-proclaimed Madam Boss, President of all single mothers and singer Akothee has opened up on her toxic marriage.

The mother of five who’s known for her brutal honesty when addressing whatever issue has shared a view of what her ten years of marriage looked like.

Akothee shared her plight on her socials that is Instagram and Facebook.

Happily married

My own Jared was and still a humble man, he was never violent, he had never beaten me up in front of our children. I don’t remember when we argued. Because we lived in harmony, most people admired our family life.

Yes, we were not really broke but we were trying. Jared was earning a salary of 15,000 ksh as an accountant. And with this money, we had to manage our 3 daughters, and live the life we understood. We admired people driving cars. Jared used to go ask for his friend’s cars to take us to church.

I admired my husband driving ?I prayed to God to bless us with a car. So that our children could also enjoy what other children enjoy ? . Our church was full of able people, their children’s clothes were new from supermarkets. I and Jared went to Gikomba at 5.00 am, bought clothes for our children, and enough food for the month.

Our salary was small. So we budgeted with what we had. We didn’t have a housegirl. I was fully a housewife, very organized. I would pump my fridge with food enough for the next paycheck.

Jared would bring food every time he came from a trip. He knew my weakness was the kitchen and he never ate at the neighbors. He always rushed home for lunch ? I prepare his bathing water, and by the time he comes from the bathroom his clothes and shoes were well ironed, and shoes brushed. When he was ready in the bedroom, breakfast was ready for him on the table.

Fading love

It’s unfortunate that the love ended without notice. That’s the only time violence appeared. His attention was diverted and I felt left alone ?. So a friend of mine gave me alcohol and I came home drunk that’s when Jared beat the hell out of me ?. Being a nyarkadera & influence of alcohol I broke all the windows with my hands ??. I was ready to die since I loved Jared so much and I didn’t and never wanted to let go. Some fake friends even made my break up worse? .

ESTHER TINDE AMADHO KONGO????? (Jared asked with beatings motivo caching, and a very disappointed voice ) ” Jared knows no violence. It was triggered by confusion, I had never told my children this. I was waiting for the right time to tell them why violence emerged after living peacefully for 10 solid years with their father, amidst struggle.

The toxic friend

Some of my friends cheated and mislead me. One of them who used to cheat on her husband? told to me to save her number as if she is my boyfriend. so, she was to call me at midnight and make Jared jealous. On the other hand, she alerted Jared too, that I have a boyfriend? who calls at midnight. Be careful with WOMEN.? When my fake boyfriend called, I went to the bathroom ao trigger the fire, lol. What a fight, we fought over this phone and I even made sure I chewed the SIM card ?. Ooh shit, Poor me.

How could I compete with a man? So simply because he was seeing someone else, made me almost lose my life! Why didn’t I just pack and leave instead of putting my kids through this mess ?? Yet I could not pack and leave.

I believed marriage must work. I had fear of the unknown I was broke and broken. And I had nothing other than my form Four certificates. Remember Jared took me back to school and made sure I cleared my form Four. Because he is the one who made me break out of school, carrying his pregnancy VESHA AWUOR OKELLO. JARED WAS A HUSBAND AND A HALF THAT EVERY WOMAN WOULD LOVE TO HAVE. GIVE CREDITS WHERE ITS DUE. IT WAS JUST NOT MEANT TO BE, WE WERE YOUNG SO WE STILL HAVE TIME TO FIND OUT REAL LOVE. NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER, U NEVER KNOW THE CONTENT ?I WISH MY FAMILY ALL THE BEST IN LIFE INCLUDING MY JARED? THE MAN WHO BROKE MY VIRGINITY. I STILL LOVE AND RESPECT YOU ?.

Wow! What a story. What an experience. Akothee is obviously happy that she walked out of the marriage. And it is easy to tell it.

What are your thoughts on toxic marriages and the kind of friend that Akothee mentioned up there?

By Wanjiru Mbaru.

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Are you thinking what am thinking? Akothe wants to remarry Jared.


This isn’t a toxic marriage, it was just young, foolish love. The beating was only once. She saved herself in time.


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